Beyond Cultures: Shifts in Masculinity and Machismo w/ Mauricio Verduzco

In today’s episode of Men's Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay sits down with Mauricio Verduzco. He is a therapist specializing in men's issues and cultural dynamics. Verduzco has a unique background. Having lived in both Mexico and the United States, he provides a rich perspective. He discusses the complexities of masculinity across different cultures.

Verduzco shares his personal journey: "I never quite felt like I fit in for various reasons. My family moved around a lot when I was growing up... Before I landed in Austin, Texas, I had lived in like 17 different cities, bouncing around between the U.S. and Mexico." This experience of straddling two cultures shaped Verduzco's understanding of masculinity. It helped in understanding its cultural variations.

He recalls, "The examples I had of masculinity at home were very healthy ones. My dad was not a man's man... I was kind of allowed to express my masculinity, but I felt I needed to." Yet, Verduzco notes that the world outside his home was not as accepting. He highlights the tension between personal expression and societal expectations of masculinity.

Cultural Dimensions of Masculinity

Verduzco's presentation on machismo sparked interest in masculinity across cultures. It led to broader discussions on global masculinity. He explains:

"In Mexico, in the bigger cities, masculinity was much more... metrosexual. The more masculine guys were guys with really well-neat and done hair, their button-up shirts were done quite nicely... It was normal for dudes to have like manicured hands."

This contrasts sharply with his experiences in Texas: "The more masculine guys are the ones who don't appear to put as much effort into the appearance... Seeing somebody with muddied up boots was usually more of a status symbol."

These observations highlight how cultural context shapes the expression and perception of masculinity.

Toxicity of Traditional Masculinity

Verduzco breaks down toxic masculinity into three key tenets:

1. Power and Dominance: "You have to use whatever tools you have at your disposal to get power. To be a dominant figure in whatever space you're in."
2. Toughness: "Men have to be tough, tough it out. We have to be self-sufficient. We're not allowed to ask for help."
3. Anti-Femininity: "Everything that isn't overtly masculine is feminine, so it's bad."

He emphasizes how these rigid expectations can be harmful. Mauricio highlights, "Unfortunately, some cultures ingrain the toxicity of masculinity. Into our cultural identity."

Redefining Masculinity for Better Mental Health

Verduzco advocates for a more inclusive and expansive definition of masculinity. He emphasizes the need for support groups. Mauricio says, "I would love for masculinity to be redefined as one where it's... not restrictive. Where if you want to wear nail polish, it's masculine. If you want to have a very traditional appearance, it's masculine."

Mauricio highlights the importance of emotional intelligence. Men and emotions go hand in hand for a healthy life. Emotions must not be ignored. He stresses the importance of recognizing both achievements and the journey towards them. One should encourage human connection and emotional awareness as integral parts of masculinity.

Conclusion

As society continues to evolve, so too must our understanding of masculinity. Mauricio Verduzco's insights offer a path forward. It honors cultural heritage. And also embraces a more inclusive expression of manhood. Challenging harmful stereotypes and promoting genuine self-expression helps men build healthier relationships. This leads to improved mental wellbeing. It benefits men across all cultures.

About Mauricio Verduzco

Mauricio Verduzco is a licensed therapist. He specializes in men's mental health and cultural issues. He has a unique background spanning both Mexican and American cultures. Verduzco brings a nuanced perspective to his work on masculinity and emotional well-being. He currently practices at the Tree of Life Counseling Center. He focuses on helping individuals from marginalized backgrounds. Particularly men who struggle with traditional notions of masculinity.

Verduzco draws on his own experiences with different cultural views of manhood to shape his approach. His work aims to challenge toxic masculinity while honoring cultural heritage. He is promoting a more inclusive expression of masculinity. Verduzco helps men build healthier relationships with themselves and others. He promotes emotional awareness and genuine self-expression. His work is done through therapy and education. He is committed to improving men's well-being.

Resources Mentioned

Tree of Life Counseling Center

Root of It (nonprofit)

Psychology Today (Mauricio’s profile)

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Email: mauricio@treeoflifecounselingcenter.org

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